OK I guess I'm not as stupid as I thought I was! I am using both SODE 1.3 (I installed it to the default location in Program Files (x86)) and edited my exe.xml to add the path to SODE in my FSX root location (I kept a backup of that SODE 1.22 folder). Now I have full functionality at all SODE reliant airports. This means the runway and taxiway lights work at LOWS! (and all other older SODE airports have gates and lights)...
Can't believe I actually did it!
Anyway sorry for all the moaning and groaning. That will come when the developers of LIRF, ULLI, UUDD, UUEE, updat